“Hearts rarely get broken when legs are kept closed” – Unknown
Outfit details:
ZARA jeans // ZARA sweater – available in 6 colors // H&M blazer (sold out) // JESSICA SIMPSON faux fur vest // PUBLIC DESIRE booties – open toe version // CALVIN KLEIN purse
I absolutely love how carefree this look is as it represents my mood most of the time as of late. Jeans and a sweater with a touch of glam added by the faux fur vest make a perfect weekend attire, brunch outfit or even first date look.
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Am I the only one who has been enjoying the rise of the “celibacy before marriage” movement? Not to say that this wasn’t a thing before, but lately, with communities like Pinky Promise created by Heather Lindsey, celebrities like Ciara & Russell Wilson publicly admitting that they’re waiting for marriage, and Meagan Good and Devon’s Franklin’s book “The Wait” explaining how they managed to remain abstinent until they tied the knot, it seems that this is becoming a “trend” in a society where sex is the determining factor in deciding if someone is worth dating. I must admit that it is quite pleasant to see this welcomed change in the 21st century considering the fact that the Bible has been telling us to go that route for 2000 years but I digress…
The reason I’m mentioning this is because of a comment that keeps coming up on social media among other places every time celibacy is the topic of discussion. That is “Marriage is just a piece of paper. Why should I have to wait until then to find out if I’m sexually compatible with someone?” Everyone is clearly entitled to their opinions but as a Christian, I can’t help but to be annoyed disturbed by this notion. Marriage is NOT just a piece of paper. In my eyes, marriage is a covenant before God, a lifelong commitment to share your life with another human being. The fact that we think it is simply a piece of paper is the reason why our marriages are now lasting 72 days. People are so focused on having lavish weddings but are not the least bit concerned about the marriage itself which is obviously the most important part.
During their book tour, Devon and Megan talked about the fact that before they even got engaged, they attended pre-engagement counseling. I didn’t even know that such a thing existed but it makes so much sense. When you attend pre-marital counseling, you are already engaged and on the verge of marriage. But pre-engagement counseling helps both parties involved to confirm that they truly want to go down the road of marriage before saying yes under the pressure of a romantic bended knee moment. Just brilliant!
Many of you, my dear readers are reaching the age of young adulthood and the topic of marriage almost always comes up some time after college graduation. If you don’t remember anything else I’ve ever advised on this blog, remember this: A man is supposed to love a woman as Christ loves the Church and a woman is supposed to submit to her husband. If sex is the factor by which your mate has to determine if he / she loves you and if you’re compatible, then the relationship is already in trouble.
A strong foundation is indispensable for the survival of a marriage because if a couple has nothing to hold them accountable to their commitment to each other through thick and thin, the relationship will crumble at the first sign of trouble. There is a reason a majority of marriages fail especially if tragedy strikes. Don’t be easily swayed. Value the temple that is your body and “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – His good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2
*But what do I know?! I’m just a single girl giving marriage advice 🙂
As always, I hope you guys enjoyed the look and the post. Feel free to drop me a line below to share your thoughts on the idea of celibacy. Until next time beauties.
Versicolorfully yours,
Edwina
Great Message! Well said! As stated Marriage is a Union between two before God
I think people use “it’s only a piece of paper” excuse because …
1. They hear (not listen) people compare man’s law vs. that of God
2. They attempt (looking for an excuse) to justify their desires.
3. Unfortunately I have talked with girls that weren’t raised in Church and just didn’t know or thought Love was having sex … sad.
We’re Blessed to know God and to know God is Love!
It still hurts/amazes me how people complicate everything.
Between two Love is simply placing the other before ourselves … of course it must be reciprocal!
I never gave in b/c of pressure but …
Admit and Deeply regret my Mistakes when younger giving into temptation “idle hands” …
Now my career keeps me busy which makes it easier to abstain … must be Truthful thoughts cross my mind and that’s still a Sin!
But thoughts don’t make Babies or carry STD’s …
Hopefully Anthony, more Guys and Girls will Listen to Our Father or at least Understand/Appreciate your Wisdom Sis! So Keep Preaching 🙂
Nice Look Edwina! Wish You were my personal wardrobe consultant 😉 Seriously! Your Style and my tastes are spot on! Well i have Great taste anyhow 😉
I was Blessed with a lil talent and received a scholarship in art. Dreams of becoming the “Next” big designer were Quickly dashed lol Totally different level combo of Talent + Skill!
ONA Just read your reply and Relieved you weren’t upset by my previous re reply … i should listen ten times more than speak o.O
Be Safe, Well and Wishing you a Very Cheerful Day Sis 🙂 peace
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Girl you said it all! When you don’t want to do something (even if you know it’s the right thing), you make excuses. My biggest concern is for people who know better not to let themselves be swayed by society’s new normal. Thankfully, we have a loving Father who forgive our shortcomings but the sad thing is that some of us don’t even know to repent or don’t even realize we’re living in sin…
On another note, I’ll gladly use you as my muse to practice being a consultant. Lol! Too bad you’re not in NY but you never know… Glad you enjoy the blog and appreciate you sharing the links on FB & commenting. You’re the best! By the way, I hope you’re not giving up on your designing dreams. It may not be your career or main source of income yet but don’t forget that hobbies turn to careers all the time so don’t let your talents go dormant.
As always, thanks for stopping by. Enjoy your day and remain blessed beautiful 🙂
Sex is important to the suuccess of a relationship. It combines the souls of those involved. In marriages it can end a argument or smoothen things out. It let’s your spouse know your interested in them. Lastly i don’t think celabecy is healthy unless paired with a strong spritual purpose. Like that of a monk.
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Sex is important to the success of a marriage. Yes! I’m glad you mentioned that it combines two souls. We date so many people before we marry ‘the one’. Do you want soul ties with every single one of those people you dated but didn’t marry? Everyone is entitled to their opinion but I think it is wise of those who choose to keep themselves for marriage to do so. That way, you get to learn so much more about someone & learn to be intimate in other ways. By doing so, you also weed out the people that don’t meet your standards without having your judgment clouded by the temporary emotions that sex provides.
Thanks for your comment.
I absolutely hate it when people say marriage is just a piece of it; if it is then it means nothing at all. A marriage is not based on sex alone and if sex is the only factor that one uses to see whether or not they are compatible with another person for marriage, they have this whole relationship thing all wrong! It shouldn’t even be a factor in determining marriage.
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Girl you said it all. At least somebody gets my point…